and we all feel a simultaneous punch to the gut.
but!!!!! this is so important!!!! this is such a potent metaphor for how much bad things are glamorized in our society like eating disorders or self harm and so you have these little kids seeing it made dramatic and beautiful and i just!!!! catching fire u did so good u did so fucking good
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So fucking awesome
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Muggle Quidditch with Damansara Dementors
8th of December, 2013
Malaysian team, wooo!
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A phenomenal pilot who doesn't like to fly.
A devastating warrior who'd rather not fight.
A negotiator without peer who frankly prefers to sit alone in a quiet
cave and meditate.
For Annie. ❤
Does anyone else specifically not say things they’re thinking because they’re afraid of empowering or validating negative feelings, emotions, and actions in others?
Anonymous asked: How did you go from super anxious/depressed teenager to the self loving and confident young woman you are today? I ask because I'm already 20 and my neurosis has me severely anxious and depressed.
Firstly, I’m sorry this took me such a long time to answer. At first, I was going to answer with a generic sort of list of tips as to how to be happy, but then I realised that this question really asked for something deeper than that. It didn’t ask how to be happy; it asked how not to be sad, and those are two very different things.
There are several things you have to know before you’re able to let yourself be happy.
Happiness is not a conspiracy. There is not a force in the universe that will hold my laughter against me, except for myself. The only voice that ever told me I would pay the price for happiness was my own. There will be no karmic retribution, no punishment, no sentence or harsh words that stem from your smile. There are no people watching you, waiting to see the first glimmer of joy in your eyes just so they can crush it. Happiness is just that. Nothing more, nothing less. It’s not a warning, it’s not a crime, it’s not a symptom and it’s not an insult. You will not fall because you laughed. You will not be ruined because you hoped.
You deserve to be happy. No matter how anxious you are - no matter how loud your voice sounds when you say the wrong things, no matter how wrong you are when you’re right - you are not a bad person. Every day, you might tell yourself that you are a bad person, because I know that’s what depression does. I know. Everything about you is bad and wrong and you think it’s fact. It’s not. You are wonderful. Your fingerprints are not the only unique thing about you, and your DNA is not what makes you an individual. You are a good person and you do bad things, but you do incredible things too - even on the days when all you do is breathe and sleep and think, do you know how marvellous that is? You are atoms and memories and chemicals and tears and laughter and joy and anger and everything, everything about you is miraculous. No other human has ever looked at things the way you do. Not one. You deserve to be happy, because you deserve everything. You deserve exactly what you think you don’t. We are all different, but we are all equal. Not the same, but balanced; and that’s different.
You can be happy. It’s a case of looking at the silver lining and not the cloud - and then looking at the cloud and seeing the silver lining. You don’t ignore the bad things. You can’t do that, because we need to know they’re there. They give the value to the good things. Sunshine isn’t wonderful unless it’s rained; it’s just hot and bright. After a rainstorm, it’s respite. When someone looks at you like they think you’re inferior, they’re probably just thinking about the fact that they missed the bus that morning - and what does it matter what a stranger thinks anyway, because you’ll never see them again and you’ll never know what else they think. For all you know, they could be the kind of person who thinks that sunshine is always too hot and bright. The kind of person who never sees the good in anything or anyone. But there’s good in everything, everything, and you just have to learn to look for it.
A setback is just a setback. A bad day doesn’t make a bad week, let alone a bad person. Every time you cry, it’s not a failure. It’s not evidence that you can’t be happy. It’s just evidence that you’re not. Not now, or not yet; either one is fine. Either one isn’t proof that you will not be happy. It’s just proof that this day, this minute, this second is not that time. Every time you cry does not negate all the times you smile. Both sadness and happiness are parts of human life. They both have value and beauty, and you will experience both, but the nature of each means that you can’t feel both at the same time. It doesn’t mean that you never will.
And that’s it. Those are the secrets. There was no chemical shift in my brain. I am still depressed. I still sleep too much and eat too little and think too deeply and cry too often, but I am happy because I know how to let myself be. Depression can co-exist with happiness and self-confidence if you let it, and it’s not easy. God, it takes so much time for those secrets to become part of your natural thought process, but if you try, then they will. I promise you that they will.
You just can’t be happy without trying. I know that sounds like what everyone says to you - ‘why can’t you just be happy?’ - but that isn’t what I’m saying. It’s not. You can’t just be happy, but you can let yourself stop feeling sad.
Happiness is not a conspiracy. You deserve to be happy. You can be happy. A setback is just a setback.
And that’s how I did it.
You can’t recover from Depression. But you can cover it up. Once you see the world for what it is, no amount of drugs can make it full of rainbows again. The world is a horrible place, anyone who tells you it’s a place of wonder is lying to themselves and to you or truly hasn’t experienced the painful truths of what this society actually is.
You’re right; you don’t recover from depression. But you don’t cover it up. You learn to manage it, as with any mental illness. Management can include medication, therapy; a wide variety of things. What works for one person will not work for the next.
There will always be bad days. There will always be relapses. But there will also always be hope. There will always be beautiful things in the world.
That’s it. That’s all I have to say.
I will always have depression, but I will not always be sad.
#i won’t speak for anyone else#not you and not anyone#but i think it’s possible to overcome depression#with acceptance and determination#and to live with it like an old friend#and not an enemy#but mental illness is personal#and not everyone will recover the same way#and not everyone will recover#but i like to think that many will#because i’m an optimist#and i always will be#despite my depression
I’m the luckiest girl in the world to have him! Photo cred to my girl Krista
This girl is my very favorite
…trolling used to be pretty funny and almost entirely harmless. Trolling, despite the modern usage, does not mean “the act of pissing somebody off and laughing about their anger.” It is “the act of pissing somebody off BASED ON SOMETHING COMPLETELY MEANINGLESS and laughing about their MISPLACED anger.” It isn’t considered trolling to leave a comment full of racial epithets and laugh when people “don’t get it.” It is trolling if you leave a comment insisting on the wrong information about something irrelevant – how many runes are on a Stargate, for example (everybody knows its 12) – and wait for the ONE guy that just can’t let the transgression pass. If you start a fake fight with Prof. Stargate, dragging him deeper and deeper until hopefully, finally, even he has to stop and think “wait a minute, this is ridiculous,” that is trolling. That’s the difference: No actual harm is caused, and even the victim can eventually get in on the joke. “Trolling” isn’t referring to hiding behind a fortification and trying to hurt people like the mythical creature. It’s referring to the style of fishing – you drag bait across the bottom hoping to get a rare bite. It’s not ‘bait’ if you’re earnestly spouting your misogynistic beliefs and somebody gets upset. There’s nothing funny about entirely justified anger.– Robert Brockway, http://www.robertbrockway.net/2013/07/18/its-not-a-game-if-you-cant-lose/ (via albinwonderland)
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